The Comfort Zone
“Discomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful life”
Falling down is part of life. Getting back up is living.
We are about to dive into territory that I just totally love…growth!! And getting outside your comfort zone is the high speed lane heading in that direction.
What is the comfort zone?
I think we all know what that feels like – it’s safety. It’s control (or the perception of it). It’s a level of certainty.
There is space and time in all our lives to be here, in the comfort zone. The problem arises when we get too comfy. When we let fear take over, our ego convinces us that the scary place outside this comfort zone is too scary to go towards. Our minds will make us believe that it’s safer here behind these walls that we know and that the unknown on the other side isn’t worth exploring. I’m here to tell you that nothing can be farther from the truth! The best living, the best life is on the other side. It takes practice and a commitment to not let the fear gremlins take charge.
Let’s dive into the diagram that I believe really gives a great representation of what it looks like to push past those walls to see what’s on the other side.
The number one reason people fail at getting outside the comfort zone is that the next phase is the fear phase. Our brains are SO good at protecting us that they will sabotage growth in order to not feel pain.
The fear zone is characterized by a lack of self-confidence, you’re affected by others opinions and you find excuses, or as I like say…enter victim mode.
Victim mode is an epidemic in our society. It’s the blame game. It’s the “why me”, or the “things keep happening to me” talk that places blame on an outside source and allows you to sit back, throw your hands in the air and take no responsibility. This is an example of basic human living, aka the fear zone.
This is where most people live and the pain and discomfort of this zone is what holds people back from pushing through to the next phase…
This is where it starts to get good! And you can see that it’s not as scary as you once thought. In the learning zone you make the choice to deal with challenges and problems, and through that process you acquire new skills. With these new skills the comfort zone expands and the fear zone gets smaller. This phase is really where you can see signs that life is happening foryou, not toyou. It can feel so good to be past the limiting beliefs that once held you back. Now you’re ready to step into the best phase…
Growth is where the magic happens. You set new goals and conquer new objectives with confidence. The dreams that at one point seemed impossible are now coming true and you feel a sense of purpose. This is a higher level of living! If base level living is fear based, high level living is growth based.
We all have a choice to grow. And as my man Tony Robbins once said, “If you’re not growing, you’re dying.”
I’m not saying that you’ll never experience fear or uncertainty again, but once you begin the practice of stepping outside and challenging yourself to grow it will be come easier and easier. It’s a cycle of pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone further and further, growing with each experience. Just like a muscle, the more you use it and push it…the stronger it gets.